Selling and Being Sold
Every interaction is bidirectional persuasion — you're never just the seller or the buyer.
"By the time you realize you're being sold, you've usually been bought."
What is Selling and Being Sold? Every interaction is bidirectional persuasion — you're never just the seller or the buyer. Procurement, vendor management, and partnership negotiation.
Brown's ninth lecture, integrating Cialdini's principles with organizational behavior.
Procurement, vendor management, and partnership negotiation.
Name the frame: 'What is being sold here, and to whom?' before deciding.
Use the model. Pick the move.
Every interaction is bidirectional persuasion — you're never just the seller or the buyer. You've just seen this: Brown's ninth lecture, integrating Cialdini's principles with organizational behavior. Which lever does the model recommend?
Pick a lever. There are no neutral ones — every incentive funds a behavior somewhere.
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The full taxonomy entry
Every concept in the Atlas uses the same structure — so Selling and Being Sold can be compared, recombined, and cited like an element on a periodic table.
- Business
- Leadership
- Government
- Healthcare
- Education
- Sales
- Marketing
- AI
- Negotiation
- Media
- Public Policy
- Relationships
- Where in our org would Selling and Being Sold most often show up unnoticed?
- Which metric, ritual, or contract clause quietly rewards Selling and Being Sold?
- If we removed every payoff for Selling and Being Sold, what behavior would replace it?
- Who benefits when Selling and Being Sold persists — and who pays the cost?
- People defend the status quo using the language of selling and being sold.
- Decisions cluster around the easiest narrative rather than the strongest evidence.
- New data changes the slide deck but not the decision.
- Anyone naming the pattern is treated as the problem.
Every Atlas entry is a node in a knowledge graph. See the related rail below to follow the connections.
See Selling and Being Sold through 4 lenses
Each layer of the Incentives OS reframes this concept with its own thinkers, vocabulary, and diagnostic question.
- Layer 9Persuasion & Behavior Design
What is making this behavior easier than the alternative?
- Layer 10Negotiation
Where is the real leverage — and what interests sit behind the stated positions?
- Layer 18Temporal Models
What happens if this incentive compounds for ten years?
- Layer 21Mental Models & Mastery
Which model — or stack of models — are we missing here?
Long-form essays that cite Selling and Being Sold
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Which best describes Selling and Being Sold?
Worked example, counter-example & concept map
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When you encounter Selling and Being Sold, your default mode network folds the experience into your ongoing story-of-self — which is why the same fact lands differently depending on who you think you are.
Self-referential thought, mind-wandering, narrative-of-self, mental time travel. Most of your waking thought is this network running scenarios about you, your status, your past, and your future.
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Ranked by shared learning paths, overlapping chips, and what you've saved.
A group decides on a course of action that nobody actually wants, because everyone assumes others prefer it.
Power tends to corrupt, and absolute power corrupts absolutely.
We attribute our own actions to situations but others' actions to their character.
We favor people who are similar to us or who like us.
Sacrificing for others without expecting a personal reward.
Masking the sponsors of a message to make it appear grassroots.
Send the card, not just the link
A pre-rendered social card with the title, eyebrow, and URL. Copy the link, post it anywhere, or download the SVG for slides.
More definitions to follow
Every term in the Atlas connects to a dozen others. Pick any of these and see where it takes you.
Keep it simple, stupid. Simplicity beats complexity in design and communication.
Deriving 'ought' from 'is.'
Imagine the failure beforehand; investigate it afterward.
Rare things feel more valuable, regardless of actual value.
Generalizing from winners while ignoring identical losers.
Start from the customer outcome and reason backward to today.
It's better because it's newer.
Asking the other side to disprove an unsupported claim.
Believing a specific scenario is more likely than its more general one.
Deliberately false information spread to deceive.
Quantitative measures of model behavior across groups.
An automatic action triggered by a stable cue — built through repetition.