Liking
We say yes more often to people we like.
"Rapport is the original API key."
What is Liking? We say yes more often to people we like. Hiring tilts toward 'culture fit' that is mostly 'liked me in 30 minutes.'.
Sales reps who mirror customers close at higher rates.
Hiring tilts toward 'culture fit' that is mostly 'liked me in 30 minutes.'
Friendly chatbots get more compliance than terse ones.
Score the proposal blind to the proposer.
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The full taxonomy entry
Every concept in the Atlas uses the same structure — so Liking can be compared, recombined, and cited like an element on a periodic table.
- Business
- Leadership
- Government
- Healthcare
- Education
- Sales
- Marketing
- AI
- Negotiation
- Media
- Public Policy
- Relationships
- Where in our org would Liking most often show up unnoticed?
- Which metric, ritual, or contract clause quietly rewards Liking?
- If we removed every payoff for Liking, what behavior would replace it?
- Who benefits when Liking persists — and who pays the cost?
- People defend the status quo using the language of liking.
- Decisions cluster around the easiest narrative rather than the strongest evidence.
- New data changes the slide deck but not the decision.
- Anyone naming the pattern is treated as the problem.
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See Liking through 3 lenses
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Long-form essays that cite Liking
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Do you actually know Liking?
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Which best describes Liking?
Worked example, counter-example & concept map
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When you encounter Liking, your prefrontal cortex has to do extra work to override the automatic response — and that override budget is finite.
Executive control, planning, impulse override, working memory, System 2. First thing to go offline under stress, fatigue, or low blood sugar. Why your 4pm decisions are worse than your 9am ones.
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Ranked by shared learning paths, overlapping chips, and what you've saved.
We defer to perceived expertise, rank, or uniform.
Membership in a group is a baseline human need.
Cooperation between unrelated agents when future reciprocity is likely.
Stored social capital from prior behavior.
Things feel more valuable when supply or time is limited.
Unwritten rules that govern behavior in a group.
Send the card, not just the link
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More definitions to follow
Every term in the Atlas connects to a dozen others. Pick any of these and see where it takes you.
Associating a neutral stimulus with a meaningful one until the neutral one triggers the response.
Cultures vary in how strictly norms are enforced and deviance punished.
What we wear influences how we think and perform.
Self-reinforcing loops of momentum.
We overestimate how much others understand our thoughts and feelings.
Loss processed more intensely than equivalent gain.
Avoiding information that might be unpleasant.
Universities optimize for ranking metrics rather than education quality.
Single-loop: fix the action. Double-loop: question the governing assumption behind it. Chris Argyris.
The relative valuation we place on rewards now vs. later — and how steeply we discount.
We favor people who are similar to us or who like us.
Contradictory evidence sometimes deepens the original belief.